Individual Counselling

I help clients to:

Manage fear of rejection
Maintain a sense of self when in a relationship
Express their needs
Improve boundary setting
Manage fear of abandonment
Develop a secure attachment style
Overcome anxiety
Improve self-esteem

Are you struggling to make relationships work? Sometimes we have unresolved issues that impact our ability to find the right partner, or to have happy, long lasting relationships. We may not be aware that we keep repeating the same patterns, or even if we are, we don't know how to change them. I help clients to understand their repeating patterns, by exploring them and looking into when they started, it's then possible to start working towards change. When we work together I support you to identify what it is that you want to achieve in your relationships, and how to start working towards this.

Often individuals struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety and low mood, which makes it difficult to work on relationships. How can you have positive relationships with others if you don't have a good relationship with yourself? Do you find that when you are in a relationship you tend to lose your sense of self? After a while you can't remember what it is that you enjoy doing and what your preferences are. Perhaps you become very anxious and needy? Or, alternatively, you may get scared when someone wants to get close to you and you end up pulling away?

I help clients to work on their self-esteem and confidence, by empowering them to realise their own strengths and skills. When clients feel paralysed by anxiety, I can share various coping strategies to help manage anxiety symptoms such as overthinking and catastrophising, for this I find Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can be very useful.

Another reason you may be struggling to have successful relationships could be because of unresolved past emotional wounds. When we go through difficult periods in life, whether this is during childhood, or as adults, we end up carrying with us a load of emotional baggage, this can affect, not only our choice of partner, but also how we navigate issues in the relationship. I help clients to work through and heal past emotional wounds, so that they can then be in a stronger position when it comes to choosing a partner and to managing difficulties in relationships.